Feminist historian and author Elinor Cleghorn joins Dr. Mindy Pelz to unpack where mom guilt really comes from, why the "natural maternal instinct" is a myth, and what reclaiming the true value of mothering looks like today. Elinor Cleghorn is the author of A Woman's Work: Reclaiming the Radical History of Mothering, available in bookshops and online now: In this episode: Where mom guilt actually comes from and why it was never your fault The myth of natural maternal instinct and what it cost generations of women Why so many women are choosing not to have children right now Why your kids not calling every day might be the greatest win of your parenting How the patriarchy wounds men too and where healing starts MORE ON ELINOR CLEGHORN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elinorcleghorn/ Unwell Women: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/646468/unwell-women-by-elinor-cleghorn/ A Woman's Work: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/715994/a-womans-work-by-elinor-cleghorn/ 🎧 New episodes weekly on The Resetter Podcast: For more resources related to today’s episode, visit the podcast page here: https://drmindypelz.com/ep338/ STAY CONNECTED WITH ME: Facebook:   / drmindypelz   Facebook Group:   / resetters   Substack: / drmindypelz Instagram:   / dr.mindypelz   Tiktok:   / drmindypelz   THE RESETTER PODCAST: Apple Podcast: Listen on Apple Podcasts Spotify: Listen on Spotify CREDITS: Photos: Wendy Yalom Photography Editor: Patrick Hogan AFFILIATE DISCLAIMER https://drmindypelz.com/affiliate-dis... ***** Please note the following medical disclaimer: By viewing this video you understand that this video is for educational purposes only. It is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice and should not be relied on as health or personal advice. Always seek the guidance of your doctor with any questions you may have regarding your health or medical condition. You also understand and agree that the terms of our Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply to your interaction with us.