Thank you to today’s sponsor – Paleovalley: 30 for $36 at https://paleovalley.com/lisa Ever wonder why some relationships feel like they can survive anything… while others fall apart over the smallest fights? Or why you keep having the same argument over and over again, even when you both swore you’d “never go there” again? Homie, today’s episode is your crash course in building real relationship resilience—whether you’re dating, married, or still figuring out who’s worth your energy. I’m joined by Dr. Julie Gottman—world-renowned clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and co-founder of The Gottman Institute—aka the woman who’s spent decades studying couples and uncovering exactly what makes love last (and what tears it apart). From the subtle behaviors that predict a breakup years before it happens, to the “Four Horsemen” that silently poison communication, Julie is dropping truth bombs that will change the way you approach every conversation, conflict, and commitment in your life. We’re talking about how to fight fair, how to actually repair after an argument, and why small daily habits are way more powerful than grand romantic gestures. And trust me—you’re going to walk away with tools you can use TONIGHT to start transforming your love life. Here’s exactly what we dig into: -The biggest myths about lasting relationships (and the science that proves them wrong). -Why 69% of relationship conflict never gets “solved”—and why that’s actually okay. -How to spot the “Four Horsemen” that slowly destroy trust and connection. -Julie’s genius method for de-escalating fights before they blow up. -The repair techniques happy couples use every single time to bounce back stronger. -How to handle conflict when you and your partner have completely different personalities or communication styles. -Why the way you start a conversation determines how it ends (and what to say instead). -The one daily ritual that predicts relationship happiness better than anything else. -How to rebuild trust after betrayal and navigate the messy middle between “stay” and “go.” -The surprising truth about why some relationships feel “boring” after the honeymoon phase—and how to bring back the spark without drama. By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly what’s been holding you back from feeling safe, seen, and supported in love—and how to start creating the kind of connection you really want. Because, homie, great relationships aren’t magic—they’re built. And after this conversation, you’ll have the blueprint. Chapter Titles: FOLLOW DR. JULIE GOTTMAN: Website: https://www.gottman.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gottmaninstitute Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Gottman.Institute Twitter: https://twitter.com/GottmanInst Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.lisabilyeu.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!