Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Judge Lynn Toler, a retired judge who hosted TV's Divorce Court for 14 seasons. Head to https://betterhelp.com/softwhiteunderbelly to get 10% off your first month of therapy with our sponsor, BetterHelp. Because no one should have to go through anything alone. BetterHelp is here, With You. #sponsored Here's Judge Lynn Toler's IG https://www.instagram.com/realjudgelynnii/ 0:00 Judge Lynn Toler: From Harvard to Divorce Court 7:01 What Human Nature Really Looks Like 10:47 Why People Wanted More Than a Divorce Judge 14:51 Childhood, Race & Growing Up With a Bipolar Father 21:23 Marriage, Mental Illness & Choosing the Right Partner 25:30 The Biggest Lies People Tell Themselves 27:54 Why Childhood Shapes Adulthood 32:02 Personal Accountability vs. Victimhood 35:04 Love, Marriage & Choosing the Wrong Partner 39:43 How Technology Is Changing Relationships 46:30 Addiction Is About Pain, Not Drugs 47:51 Are We Becoming Emotionally Weaker? 49:29 The Divorce Court Cases She'll Never Forget 54:04 Why Marriages Fail 1:00:22 How to Build a Relationship That Lasts 1:12:10 What Every Young Person Should Learn 1:15:49 Final Thoughts For full-length, ad-free and uncensored videos please subscribe to the Soft White Underbelly subscription channel at softwhiteunderbelly.com. It's $10 a month and watchable on Apple and Android mobile apps, Roku TV, Apple TV and Amazon Fire. Here's how to purchase the Soft White Underbelly books and merch: https://softwhiteunderbelly.org #swu #softwhiteunderbelly #documentary #marklaita #divorcecourt #marriage #love