Bringing your kid the homework they forgot feels like love. It's actually the fastest way to make sure they never learn to remember it. In this clip, Dr. Daniel Amen and Jay Shetty talk about why the parents who solve every problem end up raising kids with the least confidence. Daniel shares the night his wife told their second grader she'd never ask about homework again, and what happened 20 minutes later. He explains why a 70-year Harvard study found only one thing linked to self-esteem, and the 20-minute daily habit he calls magic. Learn why you should never tell your child they're smart, and the one rule that lowers your chances of losing your temper with them. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Chapters 0:00 — What kind of parent do you want to be? 0:57 — Why the third son felt irrelevant 2:24 — The 7 out of 10 test for healthy kids 3:36 — Obedient kids vs. free thinkers 4:48 — The second grade homework standoff 7:43 — The Harvard study on self-esteem 9:23 — Watching your child be uncomfortable 10:46 — Voting just to spite his dad 12:07 — The 20-minute special time exercise 14:35 — The blue hair conversation 18:35 — Signs of a mentally strong child 21:46 — Why you should never call your kid smart 23:06 — The phrases that backfire on parents 26:26 — The rule that got 7 million views 27:24 — What loving discipline looks like 31:16 — Why kids can't sit still 33:13 — What love really looks like Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️ Netflix - https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD Spotify - https://dub.sh/axUXylv Full Episode With Dr. Daniel Amen: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=avx4Ww9h3Tc Episode Resources: https://www.tiktok.com/ @docamen https://www.instagram.com/doc_amen/ https://twitter.com/docamen https://www.linkedin.com/in/drdanielamen/ https://www.facebook.com/drdanielamen/ https://www.amazon.com/stores/Daniel-G.-Amen/author/B004G3QFTW? https://danielamenmd.com/ https://www.amenuniversity.com/ https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean