Ready to begin or deepen your meditation practice? Join Dan Harris and world-class meditation teachers on the 10% with Dan Harris app here: https://app.danharris.com/membership Your mind is at war with reality — wanting to be somewhere else, someone else, doing something else. The Buddha had a name for the five biggest obstacles you'll run into the moment you try to sit still, and a surprisingly handle-able playbook for each. This conversation was recorded live at the annual Meditation Party retreat with Dan's longtime co-hosts and friends, Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren. Sebene is the author of "You Belong" and co-creator with Dan of the Audible original "Even You Can Meditate." Jeff hosts "The Mind-Bod Adventure Pod" and co-authored "Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics" with Dan. Together they walked a roomful of meditators through the hindrances, the Five Recollections, and the questions you actually wonder about in real life. In this episode we talk about: – The five hindrances — desire, aversion, restlessness, doubt, and the dignity-free syndrome of sloth and torpor – The Five Recollections — aging, sickness, death, impermanence, and karma — and why they're a buoy, not a downer – Looking for the sweetness while caring for someone with dementia – How to "stand behind the waterfall" and watch your thoughts instead of drowning in them – The RAIN technique for working with strong emotions in real time – Mana — the comparing mind — and why even enlightened beings have to deal with it – Why "I love you, dude" is a real spiritual practice – What to do when people keep expecting you to be the asshole they remember Subscribe to watch more 10% Happier videos: https://www.youtube.com/tenpercenthappier Follow Dan Harris on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/danharris/ https://www.tiktok.com/@danbharris https://www.facebook.com/DanHarrisABC https://twitter.com/danbharris https://www.linkedin.com/in/dan-harris-91ba5716b/ 0:00:00 Why we go to war with reality 0:02:00 The five hindrances, explained 0:07:00 Why each hindrance has a positive flip side 0:09:00 The subtle aversion to staying in your experience 0:12:00 The Five Recollections — aging, sickness, death, impermanence, karma 0:17:00 "Pain times resistance equals suffering" 0:23:00 Why the soberness of it lands you right here 0:29:00 Audience Q: loving-kindness vs. the five remembrances 0:31:00 Being present with someone in advanced dementia 0:34:00 Training the heart and the humdrumness of love 0:40:00 Mana — the comparing mind that follows you to enlightenment 0:46:00 Standing behind the waterfall 0:52:00 Working with anger using RAIN 0:59:00 Just tell people you love them 1:00:00 When the people in your life resist your changes #10PercentHappier #Meditation #MeditationParty Sponsors: Northwest Registered Agent: Helping small business owners launch and grow for nearly 30 years — business address, website, phone number, operating agreement, and free guides, all at no extra cost. Get started at https://www.northwestregisteredagent.com/Happierfree BetterHelp: May is Mental Health Awareness Month — a reminder that whatever you're dealing with, you don't have to deal with it alone. Sign up and get 10% off at https://www.betterhelp.com/happier Wix: Wix Harmony is Wix's flagship AI website builder — describe your idea and get a fully functional site, backed by 99.99% uptime and enterprise-grade security. Get started at https://www.wix.com/harmony Warby Parker: Buy one prescription pair and get 20% off any additional prescription pairs at https://www.warbyparker.com/happier