Attachment Styles are at the core of SO many relationship dynamics yet so few of us know much beyond "secure", "anxious", and "avoidant". Isn't it about time we learned WHY we behave the way we do so we can learn how to stop getting in our own way? We're thrilled today to be joined by Eli Harwood, aka @attachmentnerd, therapist, author, and attachment theory expert! Eli has amassed a massive following on Instagram with her attachment expertise and analysis. She is the author of "Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns Into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships" and the upcoming "Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting To Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience", so we could not be in better hands! Today Eli breaks down those famed Attachment Patterns (spoiler alert: there's WAY more to this than secure, anxious, and avoidant!) and how and why we as adults behave the way we do in our relationships. (As Andy puts it at one point, Attachment is "EVERYTHING"!) We learn how much of a role gender plays, why some of us are different in platonic vs romantic relationships, and how much is nature vs nurture. There are also parenting questions for our caregiver Shandies out there! Shandy also gets personal with their own experiences that have shaped their own attachment patterns. Finally, the big question: HOW DO WE HEAL? Eli has the answers you've been waiting for and manages to deliver them in the most relatable and easy-to-understand way. As Shandy puts it, you just might see your childhood flash before your eyes! Listen on for a masterclass in YOURSELF. Thank you to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 60% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout for up to 40% off! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://quince.com/SHANDY for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! More Eli Harwood, Aka Attachment Nerd: - Books: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/series/0DV/attachment-nerd/ - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd - Website: https://attachmentnerd.com Sharleen is wearing: - dress: https://bit.ly/4bLKZdq If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion #relationshipadvice #couplegoals #relationships #datingadvice #dating #dearshandy #love #attachmentstyles #attachment #avoidant #anxious #secure #selfhelp