Hot Topics are back, baby! One of the most common questions Shandy has received over the years has been around keeping the *SPARK* alive in a long term relationship. Who better to help us answer that age old question than legendary writer and sex educator Emily Nagoski, PhD! You know Emily for "Come As You Are", the mega bestseller that—no biggie—REDEFINED WOMEN'S SEXUALITY. Her latest book, "Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections", could not be more on topic for today's conversation! Today Emily teaches how to navigate mismatched libidos, expert tips for orgasming, the 4 big questions couples need to ask themselves, and how to find time for sexy time in a schedule full of to-do lists! Do not miss this one! Thank you to our sponsor! - Go to https://huel.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 15% off your order! More Emily Nagoski: - Emily's latest book, Come Together: https://amzn.to/4hMmlMU - Website: https://www.emilynagoski.com - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enagoski - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@emilynagoski If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion #relationships #dearshandy #emilynagoski #attachment #avoidant #anxious #sex #selfhelp #sexadvice #sexlife #comeasyouare #orgasm