The quickest way to kill a dream is to achieve it. That's how Mark Manson opened our conversation, and it hit me harder than I expected. We get into altitude sickness, the arrival fallacy, and why the one variable that predicts how long you live is the one I almost never hear talked about in the wellness world. CLICK HERE TO BECOME GARY’S VIP!: https://bit.ly/4ai0Xwg Get all Mark Manson’s books here: https://bit.ly/42sbr9q Listen to Mark Manson on all your favorite platforms! YouTube: https://bit.ly/4dBTDin Spotify: https://bit.ly/4tuGdJN Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/3PxcJgs Connect with Mark Manson Website: https://bit.ly/48ThxTZ YouTube: https://bit.ly/4dBTDin Instagram: https://bit.ly/4dkm5UK Facebook: https://bit.ly/4eFY8to TikTok: https://bit.ly/4ttiE46 X: https://bit.ly/4dkmmHg LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/48TdZkw Thank you to our partners A-GAME: “ULTIMATE15” FOR 15% OFF: http://bit.ly/4kek1ij AION: “ULTIMATE10” FOR 10% OFF: https://bit.ly/4h6KHAD AIRES: "ULTIMATE20 " FOR 20% OFF: https://bit.ly/4a3Duze BAJA GOLD: "ULTIMATE10" FOR 10% OFF: https://bit.ly/3WSBqUa BODYHEALTH: “ULTIMATE20” FOR 20% OFF: http://bit.ly/4e5IjsV COLD LIFE: THE ULTIMATE HUMAN PLUNGE: https://bit.ly/4eULUKp CYMBIOTIKA: "ULTIMATE10" FOR 10% OFF: https://bit.ly/4tjyluP GENETIC METHYLATION TEST (UK ONLY): https://bit.ly/48QJJrk GENETIC TEST (USA ONLY): ⁠https://bit.ly/3Yg1Uk9 GOPUFF: GET YOUR FAVORITE SNACK!: https://bit.ly/4obIFDC H2TAB: “ULTIMATE10” FOR 10% OFF: https://bit.ly/4hMNdgg HEALF: 10% OFF YOUR ORDER: https://bit.ly/41HJg6S PEPTUAL: “TUH10” FOR 10% OFF: https://bit.ly/4mKxgcn SNOOZE: LET’S GET TO SLEEP!: https://bit.ly/4pt1T6V WHOOP: JOIN & GET 1 FREE MONTH!: https://bit.ly/3VQ0nzW Watch the “Ultimate Human Podcast” every Tuesday & Thursday at 9AM EST: YouTube: https://bit.ly/3RPQYX8 Podcasts: https://bit.ly/3RQftU0 Connect with Gary Brecka Instagram: https://bit.ly/3RPpnFs TikTok: https://bit.ly/4coJ8fo X: https://bit.ly/3Opc8tf Facebook: https://bit.ly/464VA1H LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/4hH7Ri2 Website: https://bit.ly/4eLDbdU Merch: https://bit.ly/4aBpOM1 Newsletter: https://bit.ly/47ejrws Ask Gary: https://bit.ly/3PEAJuG Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction 01:03 - Mark Manson on the show 02:25 - Outsider years and meeting his wife in Sao Paulo 04:35 - The arrival fallacy and altitude sickness 07:40 - Why nobody wants to hear a successful person complain 09:38 - Gary's bankruptcy, divorce, and the day he took radical responsibility 13:18 - Fault versus responsibility (the part most people get wrong) 14:59 - Liberation through ownership of your reactions 15:41 - Cymbiotika NAD ad read 16:45 - Tony Robbins, the five-second pause, and self-awareness 18:40 - What ego actually is (Freud's framework) 21:53 - Accurate ego versus delusional ego 22:33 - Marriage, ecosystems, and signing up for everything 24:25 - How to start the journey of introspection 26:51 - Try on beliefs like jeans 29:01 - The dad-bod study and the 80/90% gender split 31:20 - Why people refuse to accept other perspectives 34:05 - Harvard longevity, blue zones, and the relationship variable 34:41 - The legibility bias in health and wellness 38:31 - Why biohackers skip the relationship hack 39:52 - Relationship quality as a set of teachable skills 47:50 - Anxiety as a crisis of hope 54:16 - Cold Life filtered showerhead ad read 55:01 - Young entrepreneurs and the belief problem 57:23 - Elon Musk's advice to discouraged founders 58:39 - Why Gary built the Ultimate Human platform with no expectations 01:01:37 - Caregiver syndrome and autoimmune disease in women 01:07:18 - Finding versus cultivating purpose 01:14:18 - The genetic baseline of happiness 01:17:13 - Why happiness is overrated and meaning is permanent 01:19:02 - John Gottman on recurring fights and what every happy couple has 01:21:53 - Where to find Mark 01:22:20 - What does it mean to you to be an Ultimate Human? Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical advice. It is not intended for diagnosing or treating any health condition. Always consult a licensed healthcare professional before making health or wellness decisions. Gary Brecka is the owner of Ultimate Human, LLC which operates The Ultimate Human podcast and promotes certain third-party products used by Gary Brecka in his personal health and wellness protocols and daily life and for which Ultimate Human LLC and / or Gary Brecka directly or indirectly holds an economic interest or receives compensation. Accordingly, statements made by Gary Brecka and others (including on The Ultimate Human podcast) may be considered.