#foryou #podcast #ad Feel like your best self again. Visit https://forhers.com/insane to get a personalized, affordable plan that gets you. -We're All Insane Plus for Bonus Episodes, Ad-Free Listening, Access to New Show, Guided Mediations: https://wereallinsane.com Merch is live ↓ - OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time: https://shop.wereallinsane.com - Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts: https://mailchi.mp/6d0e5d7a3998/were-all-insane Karah was raised by strong single women after her father went to prison when she was just three months old, Karah opens up about the beauty and the chaos of her childhood — from family love and resilience to addiction, prison sentences, and unimaginable challenges. She shares what it was like navigating life with an incarcerated parent, becoming a mother at 19, and ultimately choosing to rise above the hand she was dealt. Karah's Links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karah.koger?mibextid=wwXIfr&rdid=pxXWf8WnZTeDmVsC&share_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fshare%2F1AityJVwwj%2F%3Fmibextid%3DwwXIfr Instagram: karah-koger TikTok: @motomom263 Time Stamps: 00:11:53 – Why might a parent not call the police after a violent incident at home? 00:12:18 – Can a relationship look “normal” on the outside while serious abuse is happening? 00:12:34 – How do people stay loyal to someone who’s “going downhill” with addiction? 00:12:48 – Why do people hesitate to report abuse when they still love the person? 00:13:22 – How does shock affect decision-making during a traumatic event? 00:13:42 – Why do outsiders say “why didn’t you just leave or call the cops” when it’s complicated? 00:42:07 – What kinds of “small” things at home can actually be childhood trauma? 00:42:20 – How does addiction change a household’s entire emotional climate? 00:42:32 – What happens when a parent won’t work or support the family financially? 00:42:55 – How does poverty and lack of space affect kids’ privacy and development? 00:43:07 – What does it do to a kid when a parent never “wakes up” and takes responsibility? 00:44:49 – How can sibling relationships be impacted by growing up around addiction? 00:45:05 – How early can substance use start for kids in chaotic homes? 00:51:24 – When do you finally accept you’re not getting the parent you wanted? 00:51:37 – What does “the hope is gone” feel like as a teenager? 00:52:09 – How does divorce change life when one parent is unstable or incarcerated? 00:52:14 – What happens when a parent becomes homeless after addiction and jail? 00:52:29 – How do you handle a parent remarrying a stranger while still using drugs? 00:52:39 – Why do unstable parents show up randomly and disrupt everything? 00:53:22 – What do you do when violence breaks out between family members and you freeze? 01:02:55 – Can you build a real relationship with a parent who’s in prison? 01:03:23 – Why do incarcerated parents sometimes suddenly stop calling or writing back? 01:03:52 – Why does having a neglectful parent create lifelong inner conflict? 01:04:10 – How does parental neglect affect confidence and self-worth as an adult? 01:04:46 – Why can you be angry at a parent but still feel an ache for them? 01:08:10 – Do childhood guilt and embarrassment follow you into adulthood? 01:08:32 – Why can’t you “get rid of” shame from what happened when you were a kid? 01:08:43 – What does it mean to just want reassurance like “everything’s going to be okay”? 01:09:22 – Can long-term incarceration change someone’s mind and personality? 01:10:09 – Why do some parents become controlling or threatening about access to grandkids? 01:11:59 – How do families find out about medical emergencies that happen in prison? 01:12:45 – What happens when prisons won’t tell families anything after a crisis? 01:13:04 – Can delayed medical care in jail or prison cause permanent disability? 01:13:39 – Why might someone get released early from prison for medical reasons? 01:14:09 – Why do family members panic about letting an abusive parent move back in? 01:25:52 – What strange survival habits do people bring home after decades incarcerated? 01:26:17 – Why do people feel like they need protection even when they’re finally free? 01:27:13 – How do you plan a funeral for a parent you barely truly knew? 01:27:49 – What does it feel like when nobody checks on you during a family death? 01:28:09 – Is it true that all you have is yourself when life falls apart? If you have a unique story you'd like to share on the podcast, please fill out this form: https://forms.gle/ZiHgdoK4PLRAddiB9 or send an email to wereallinsanepodcast@gmail.com