Raising boys today looks different than it used to, and Richard Reeves says most parents are missing a key piece of the puzzle: boys need something different, not something wrong with them. Dr. Becky sits down with Richard Reeves, author of Of Boys and Men, to explore why boys often lag behind girls developmentally and how that gap gets mistaken for a behavior problem. Reeves shares his own regrets as a father of three sons, plus practical "side door" strategies for connecting with boys and deeply feeling kids without overwhelming them. 0:00 Intro — Father's Day and the state of fatherhood today 1:56 The developmental gap — why boys start a year behind 3:31 "What's wrong with him?" — removing the shame from the gap 6:41 The layup analogy — and Reeves' own regrets as a father 9:46 Side-door strategies — how boys actually open up 16:43 The "sturdy pilot" — validating fear without matching it 19:54 Oxytocin, risk, and raising an explorer (not a nomad) 25:50 What to do tonight — why dads matter, no matter what Watch Next: Men Beyond Utility with Dr. John Delony - https://youtu.be/xujTpOqIt2g 🟡 GET MORE FROM GOOD INSIDE / https://bit.ly/4vBKoV8 #raisingboys #fatherhood #masculinity #connection #parentingtips Get the Good Inside App by Dr. Becky: https://bit.ly/4fSxbzk Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter For a full transcript of the episode, go to [goodinside.com/podcast](http://goodinside.com/podcast). Today’s episode is brought to you by Skylight Calendar. As parents, the mental load is real—to-do lists, doctor’s appointments, sports practices, work events, birthday parties… Should I keep going? If your family is anything like mine, it can feel like there are a thousand things to remember and your brain is running on overdrive. What if I told you there's a way to bring a little more calm and clarity to your chaotic, always-changing family schedule? Meet Skylight Calendar. It’s a central, easy-to-see touchscreen with clear colors, so everyone in your family can stay in the loop. As someone obsessed with efficiency, it almost feels like magic how seamlessly it syncs with all of the calendars you're already using—Google Calendar, Apple Calendar, Outlook, and more. I truly see this tool as your partner in sharing the mental load with your kids AND partner. And because life doesn't stop when you leave the house, Skylight offers a free companion app. You can add or update events, check off to-do lists, and stay in sync with your family no matter where you are. Another great feature: If you're not completely thrilled within 120 days, you can return it for a full refund. Ready to say goodbye to calendar chaos and hello to a more organized and connected family life? Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15-inch Calendars. Just go to [skylightcal.com/BECKY](http://skylightcal.com/BECKY) for $30 off. This offer expires December 31, 2025. Today’s episode is brought to you by Sittercity. We talk a lot about support at Good Inside—emotional support, community, not having to figure out parenting on your own. Sometimes, you also need logistical support. Like, someone to watch your kid so you can make that meeting, run those errands, or finally catch up with a friend. That’s where Sittercity can be a really helpful tool. Their platform gives you a trusted way to find sitters who are kind, experienced, and show up when you need them. You can read reviews from other parents, message sitters directly, and set up interviews—all in one spot. If you’ve been meaning to find a sitter but didn’t know where to begin, this is going to make it feel a whole lot easier. Go to [Sittercity.com](http://sittercity.com/) and use the code “goodinside" for 25% off the annual or quarterly premium subscription plans. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Coterie. I remember when my own kids were learning to use the potty… so many mixed emotions: pride, stress, excitement, and a lot of mess. It really is a process. That’s why I’m always looking for tools that make it feel easier. Coterie gets that. They’ve created thoughtful products that support how kids actually learn, like The Flush Wipe and The Pant. The Pant is a diaper-training pant hybrid with a stretchy, tabbed waistband for easy pull-down or diaper-style changes. It’s absorbent enough to make it the only product you need for day and night. You can pair The Pant with the new Flush Wipes. They’re soft, durable, and designed for independent wiping - made with 99% water and 5 clean ingredients, safe for sensitive skin. Plus, they're sewer and septic safe, so they disintegrate like toilet paper when flushed.  ****Think of them like a dynamic duo, designed to grow with your kid through this process and make potty learning feel a little better for everyone. Get 20% off your first order with the code DRBECKY20.