Today we welcome Mollie West Duffy who is an expert in organizational design, development, and leadership coaching. She’s helped advise and coach leaders and founders at companies including Casper, Google, LinkedIn, Bungalow, and Slack. She’s experienced in designing talent processes and systems, as well as organizational structures and behaviors, cultural values, and learning and development programs. Mollie is the author of the Wall Street Journal bestselling book No Hard Feelings. Her most recent book with Liz Fosslien is called Big Feelings: How To Be Okay When Things Are Not Okay. In this episode, I talk to Mollie West Duffy about how to navigate big feelings. Our emotion-phobic society has a lot of misconceptions about dealing with difficult emotions and what they mean. According to Mollie, big feelings can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves if we sit with our emotions and work through them. Mollie and I share our personal experiences with depression and anxiety and how we coped. We also touch on the topics of anger, perfectionism, social comparison, burn out, and uncertainty. Website: molliewestduffy.com Twitter: @molliewest Topics 01:43 Mollie and Liz’s collaborations 05:08 How Big Feelings was published 08:31 Our emotion-phobic society 12:26 Illustrating emotions 15:13 Myths about big feelings 18:32 Emotional labor 21:14 Anxiety, uncertainty, resilience 25:03 Scott’s tips to manage anxiety 29:48 Separate the “withins” from the “beyonds” 32:14 Assess your tolerance of uncertainty 36:26 Embrace comparison 43:00 Mollie’s tips to manage depression 48:30 Translate your anger 50:43 Perfectionism isn’t as helpful as we think Subscribe to The Psychology Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/psychology-podcast-dr.-scott/id942777522 https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/the-psychology-podcast-with-scott-barry-kaufman/the-psychology-podcast-with-dr-scott-barry-kaufman?refid=stpr See past episodes and join in the Discussion: https://scottbarrykaufman.com/podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thepsychologypodcast?ref=br_tf Twitter: https://twitter.com/psychpodcast #ThePsychologyPodcast