Individuals should seek partners who complement them rather than seeking their own clones.

“the biggest mistake that people make in dating markets is they look for their their op they look for the their their doppelganger they look for their clone you shouldn't look for your clone you should look for your compliment”

Feeling lonely should be viewed as a signal that you need connection rather than as an indictment that something is wrong with you.

“I had this little epiphany where I was like oh wait a minute what if when you feel lonely it's just like a signal sort of like hunger or thirst that there's something that you want there's nothing wrong with you other than the fact that you need human connection”

Good relationships act as stress regulators that keep individuals physically healthier over time.

“what we think happens when we don't have good relationships is that we stay in a kind of lowlevel fight ORF flight mode where we have higher levels of circulating stress hormones higher levels of white blood cells ready to fight off danger and that those things gradually break down multiple systems”

The most effective way to restore trust in fraudulent systems is to become personally trustworthy and take individual responsibility for making those systems better.

“so if you want to restore trust in the system well then start by being trustworthy and that will help that's what you can do and you know being trustworthy that's no mean feat right that that makes you really something that makes you someone who can be relied on to keep their contractual obligations”

Humans are able to have intense, functional attachment relationships with religious entities that mirror the neurochemistry of interpersonal love.

“they have fully functioning relationships and attachment relationships which provide a secure base and which are developmentally important to them”