True power is found by accepting what cannot be controlled and focusing exclusively on managing one's own thoughts, actions, and reactions.

“The more control you give up the more control you gain the more you let other people live their life the better your life gets the more you let people be who they are and who they're not the better your relationships are”

Attempts to control others are often a mask for fear and an illusion that prevents one from introspecting on their own behavior.

“so this compulsion around control is really a mask for fear right the fear of what might happen if I don't you know show up and say all these things and do all these things it's all going to fall apart”

Modern society incorrectly believes that scientific and technological advancements have granted humans complete control over their environment.

“we at some point in the last 100 years, humans believed that we had complete control over the environment. And what that led to was a unrealistic expectation of certainty and a particular aversion to anything that looks like a perturbment of of that.”

Human attempts to gain complete control over life are fundamentally futile and counterproductive.

“the control that we crave is a control that you don't get to have as a human being ultimately and that you wouldn't actually want if you achieved it”