Building connections in a blended family is a process that requires time rather than an immediate paternal bond.

“And to just think because y'all went to the courthouse and filled out some paperwork that all of a sudden you've just got this paternal bond with them is a myth. It is a fantasy.”

Shady believes that Jason's behavior is actively destroying their family unit by maintaining separate alliances between the children.

“Jason is tearing apart our blended family we have very different parenting Styles”

Favoritism and lack of connection between stepparents and stepchildren contribute to the failure of a blended family unit.

“I felt like I was looking at myself. >> Yeah, why? >> Um same similar situations, the favoring of the kids, then no connection with between Pete and my children”

Inequitable treatment of children from different unions is damaging the marriage.

“Sam and I argue pretty much on a day-to-day basis about the different ways that I treat Robbie in comparison to how I treat my stepchildren. >> All the arguing with Rob has had a huge impact on our marriage. We only talk about money and the kids. If things don't change, ultimately, I think that, unf”

Jason maintains that he is the head of the household and that his word should be the final authority in family matters.

“I'm the head of the household I think my word should be the final word”