She admits that her own behavior as a parent has often been driven by a desire to fix and control her children due to her own ego and past conditioning.

“I'll be the first to admit that this behavior of feeling like well you owe me yes I did everything I could I paid for that so I expect you to behave a certain way this is the single biggest behavior and way of thinking that I am trying to break”

A parent's constant need to control their children is driven by their own inner anxiety and feelings of unworthiness, which should be addressed by the parent themselves.

“they need to be the master puppeteer of their life their relationships and their children comes from their own inner anxiety which is connected to their own unworthiness”