She believes it is often better to remain single than to settle for relationships that do not align with her personal goals or standards.

“I don't want to get into it because I'm going to start going on a rant but no you show up oh it's fine this one's good I wish I wish somebody I wish somebody would tell me you're not like other guys they always just say you're you're like [ __ ] you're a little bit funnier”

She characterizes her previous long-term relationship as toxic and claims her ex-boyfriend stole money from her.

“when we broke up I saw that he was stealing like thousands of dollars from me I I'm like yo I'm gonna sue your ass he's like well if you do that I'm gonna sue you for common-law marriage and take the half of everything you own”

A person should not be in a romantic relationship where they feel the need to prioritize someone else's preferences over their own happiness or well-being.

“If you have an inkling and you're like, I know this isn't, but it's fine for now. No, do not waste another day.”

She believes it is healthier to move on and set boundaries when someone behaves badly rather than holding onto resentments.

“I'm not in the business of trying to convince people to like me. They either do or they they either do and it's and great. If they don't, I move on.”

A person should not be given more than two chances if they repeatedly cheat in a relationship.

“You will be forgiven the first time, the second time too, but there is no forgiveness the third time. He who can cheat once can cheat again and again, but he has already cheated three times.”

One should establish physical boundaries by being upfront with the other person about feeling uncomfortable with their behavior.

“If they're trying to get more physical with you you'd be like hey honestly it feels like you might have a thing for me you guys can talk about it if you don't have feelings for them just be like hey I'm uncomfortable when this happens totally fine with being a friend”

If a partner is hesitant to post photos of the relationship on social media, it is a potential red flag that warrants a direct conversation.

“I think you gotta like talk to her about it you know yeah because like I yeah some people are like that where they're they're like well no I don't wanna obviously this is like real life not like social media like it's different with social media yeah like if you're a social media influencer complete”

When a partner triggers a negative emotional reaction, the best approach is to slow down the conversation to explain the deeper feeling rather than retaliating.

“When it comes to being triggered, you first have to slow everything down. Means I'm going to talk slower. I'm going to lower my volume rather than getting amped up and I'm going to let them know that something else is coming up for me more than what you said.”

Sending a message that clearly defines expectations can help resolve uncertainty in a relationship.

“I think if you text him right now and say, "If you don't put in more effort, I'm done." Yeah. Hit him with the we need to talk.”

Ghosting is a dysfunctional, pathological behavior that indicates a person is not a reliable partner.

“this is not sloppy it's not like she missed a couple emails from your agent or she showed up late to a conference call with spotify or whatever that would be sloppy maybe borderline negligent sure this this is different”

James thinks that the woman in the AITA scenario is foolish to stay with a partner who exploits her financially and treats her poorly.

“I'm actually sure your um is dumb your friend is just dumb like she has to be buttered darm and in love like it just doesn't make sense because she clearly doesn't know what real love is”

A significant other is entitled to be frustrated if their partner withdraws money from a joint account to which they contributed little.

“my answer is yes you allowed to get upset”

A partner who pays for another person's plastic surgery or body enhancements should be entitled to them back if the relationship ends.

“I need all mine back. I'm just saying if if any at any point I'm not I'm just obviously speaking hypothetical. If I paid for, you know, your your breast to get done, if if I paid for your lips, uh, or if I paid for, you know, your your body, just whatever it might be, and and we don't work out. I ne”

Women should not allow their partners to refuse to sit in first class during air travel because it is a sign of being with a loser.

“the guy you were with refused to sit in first class you were with a loser you with a real Buster and he refused to sit in first class”

He views marriage as primarily a business contract rather than purely an emotional arrangement.

“marriage is a business contract at the end of the day”