Dr. Phil argues that parents must resolve their personal grievances to ensure active involvement in their children's lives.

“And there is no excuse, not drive time, not feelings of tension or stress or anything else that should be a high enough mountain or a thick enough wall to keep you from being actively involved in your daughter's life.”

A parent should aim to establish an amicable co-parenting system with the other parent while maintaining their own separate household.

“Move on your own. get your kids like figure out a system between you and the the mother of your children. Um where y'all can co-parent amicably together.”

Kristie claims that she actively avoids speaking negatively about her ex-husband in front of her children.

“you never say anything negative about your hus husband uh my ex-husband I can say some things negative about my ex-husband but I don't not I do not do it to my girls I do not speak to my children as your father is this okay”

It is necessary to limit a child's contact with a specific individual if that person is rude and causes the child physical or emotional distress.

“I've always told her son Brandon and I've always told Gary to let Richard know that they know my phone number. They can call me, but John will not be around her. He physically gets ill when he has to deal with her.”

Candace believes her ex-husband uses his conflict with her mother as a justification for his failure to spend time with their daughter.

“Miguel uses the bad relationship between himself and my mom as a crutch to not have anything to do with Ellie.”

Daniel believes his daughters have taken a stance against their mother due to her past behavior.

“I'm proud that my kids have finally stood up against these all these lies, this wickedness.”

Creating a unified front and maintaining emotional safety for the child is the most important aspect of navigating a divorce.

“If mama says one thing then dada says the same thing. It's unified where you can't go to mama to get something from dad or go to dad whatever like we're a unified front. So certain things like we made a pact about”

It is generally better for co-parents to use the same behavior board, though having two is better than not using one at all.

“No. Um, it's better if it's the same one. Okay, but if you're dealing with different things, you could have two different ones. It depends on the age of the kids, too.”