Venting negative emotions to others is counterproductive because it reinforces the negative emotional state without leading to a solution.

“there's research on this venting is good for strengthening bonds between people it's good to know that you know we're buddies now I could call you up if I'm struggling you're going to listen to me and empathize with me that's great for our relationship but if all you do is just validate what I'm goi”

Emotion regulation is best approached as a context-dependent skill that prevents individuals from being overwhelmed while remaining engaged in their environment.

“So, when we talk about emotion regulation, what's the best approach to that that doesn't keep us in a subtext in our mind and and sort of out of the room?”

Emotion regulation is not about suppressing or eliminating feelings, but about adopting a new relationship to emotions and using them strategically to achieve personal goals.

“A lot of people think emotion regulation is getting rid of a feeling. It's not what it is. It's just having another relationship to it.”