Burnout and the striver's dilemma stem from an unconscious belief that one is fundamentally undeserving of love without constant external achievement.

“I think about uh my primary operating system as it has always been, which is that I'm fundamentally undeserving of love. And the only way that I uh can get it and engender my life with it is to distinguish myself and go out and you know do things in the world, right?”

Burnout is often caused by an obsessive attachment to external achievement and identity that requires a surrender to something greater to resolve.

“Our greatest need is for love and connection and our greatest fear is not to get that. So deep down this is what we all desperately want this love and connection and if you have talent then you're going to be whether you're smart or good at something you're going to get this applause this love right”