He believes that parents often act performative or showy when guests are over, which can lead to disrespectful interactions.

“you know what parents are like when they got their people over like their friends or whatever they they want to go a little bit overboard especially when it comes to their kid off yeah showing off is the word”

He views unsolicited instructions from his mother while he is already planning to perform chores as an annoying violation of his autonomy.

“when I'm actually in the mood to do my chores and my mom shouts go do the dishes that's jarring that's very very jarring when you're in a space right and you know them days where you wake up and you're in a good mood you feel like oh let me just clean the living room let me just do and your mom like”

Van argues that viewing parents as fully realized people with their own sexual histories helps one better understand their humanity, even if that perspective is uncomfortable.

“I was trying to shock people into the conversation about really looking at our parents as people and like that's why these parents it's just something that popped in my mind because now that i'm trying to like every day i'm trying to yoga eulogize my dad emotionally”