Deconstructing one's faith is an honest and necessary process of facing the truth, though many avoid it because it requires acknowledging one's culpability and taking action.

“that deconstruction it really involves facing the truth and then the reality of how much damage you are culpable for and then that necessitates a response. There is a grieving that needs to take place and then there's a movement in the opposite direction and so most people don't want to do that work”

Parents should prioritize love and trust over fear when their children leave the church.

“I think it's important to recognize that's coming from a place of fear. And I I think generally speaking, when we do something motivated from fear, that's typically not going to be a good thing. Um, and so I I think I just I typically choose to look at it as you know, most people are going to going ”

Validating the authentic journey of the other person is essential for maintaining relationships despite religious differences.

“I think the the biggest thing that I've learned is the importance of validating the other person even if we disagree and just recognizing that they are they're doing like the best that they can and they're being authentic to themselves and even though we might disagree um we don't need to like chang”