He observes that many couples make reactive decisions about childcare and fail to consider the long-term career or financial impacts on the parent who stays home.

“parents rarely talk about what this means for her career down the road or how expenses will be split up or how discretionary expenses should be handled it's so reactive”

The financial cost of childcare currently consumes her entire salary, making her wonder if continuing to work is worthwhile.

“what was the point of going back to work when my whole salary is basically gone at the end of the month”