Anita Moorjani defines unconditional love as the state of being valued simply for existing, independent of any actions, achievements, or efforts to please others.

“For the first time I felt like I was enveloped in this feeling of unconditional love. And it was a feeling of I was loved just because I exist. I didn't for the first time that I can remember. I realized that I didn't have to do anything to feel loved.”

Unconditional love involves fully accepting both the divine and deeply flawed aspects of oneself and one's partner.

“And the thing that I've learned about unconditional love, you can't really understand what unconditional love in ideal circumstances to really get to what it is to love yourself and someone else completely with all that's divine, all that's human, all that's perfect, and all that is deeply flawed.”

Unconditional love entails being honest and seeking what is most helpful for someone's peace, rather than simply offering validation or harsh judgment.

“And so that's the angle that I tried to come at at it from is is what is the most helpful? What is the most peaceful? What is is going to um be encouraging encouraging the most to her.”

Unconditional love involves allowing a partner to have, be, and do whatever they want, even if it does not involve oneself.

“Unconditional love is when you say I love you and I want you to have be do whatever you want. That's unconditional love. whether it's involving me or whether it's involving somebody else.”

True unconditional love requires the parent to recognize that their desire for children to conform to their own worldview is a form of ego, not genuine love.

“I realized for the first time that we operate in these bubbles that are designed to keep us comfortable and safe, but it's like Narcissus, you know, in the the Greek myth of the young man who saw his reflection in a pond, didn't realize it was himself, and fell in love with himself.”