🔔 Subscribe for more great content: https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes ▶️ Recommended for you: https://youtu.be/41UFvjPoMxA A calm, healthy relationship can feel more dangerous to you than the chaos you grew up in. That's hypervigilance. It hates the absence of a threat, so it manufactures one, even when you're finally safe. Patrick Teahan, a clinical social worker and childhood trauma educator, breaks down why your body still reacts like it's protecting a nine year old. You're not overreacting. You're replaying. Teahan explains how most people experience the present entirely through the lens of childhood, filtering every text and every silence through wounds that happened decades ago. This episode gets into inner child work, re-parenting, and the murky question of when going no contact with a parent is healing versus when it's avoidance. You'll hear what real boundaries look like when love and abuse get tangled together. By the end, you'll understand why healing isn't about proving your parents wrong. It's about finally believing you were a good kid the whole time. Patrick's Website http://www.patrickteahan.com/ Patrick's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/patrickteahanofficial/ Patrick's YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@patrickteahanofficial Patrick's TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@patrickteahanofficial Listen to this episode on the go! 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499 🟢 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/07GQhOZboEZOE1ysnFLipT?si=a03d916bade54d4f For more info about this episode, go to https://lewishowes.com/1962 💰 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "Make Money Easy" today!https://lewishowes.com/moneyyou 📙 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "The Greatness Mindset" today! https://lewishowes.com/gmyo 📤 sign up for my FREE newsletter https://lewishowes.com/greatnessdelivered Follow Lewis! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/LewisHowes 💻 Website: http://lewishowes.com/ 📲 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Get More Greatness! Greatness Clips: https://www.youtube.com/@GreatnessClips Spanish: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesEspañol Portuguese: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesPortugues Lewis Howes Shorts: https://www.youtube.com/@lewishowesshorts 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:00 How Trauma Disconnects You 00:05:54 Neurodivergence and Masking 00:12:20 The Quiet Trauma That Hurts Most 00:15:42 Fearing Deep Intimacy 00:22:58 Healing the Parent Relationship 00:27:15 Connecting With Your Inner Child 00:33:32 Understanding Emotional Triggers 00:43:06 Seeking Toxic Relationships 00:47:48 Why Healthy Love Feels Scary 00:51:16 Going No Contact 01:00:27 Calming Your Nervous System 01:03:12 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome 01:07:08 Three Powerful Truths T-Mobile 5G Home Internet. T-Mobile.com/HomeInternet #greatness #inspiration #motivation