Learn more at https://bratbusters.com In this episode, Lisa discusses guilt around holding boundaries as a parent. She covers the difference between pleaser parenting and authority-style parenting in comparison to calm leadership, how to be taken seriously as a parent, her demeanor during discipline, why parents should have boundaries for their children, why discipline is kindness, what age she would begin having boundaries for kids, and the importance of fun as a parent. Lastly, Lisa addresses seven listener questions, exploring how to choose effective consequences for kids, the best way to handle a 3-year-old testing boundaries, how to respond when a toddler becomes demanding, strategies for when a 19-month-old resists face washing or teeth brushing, tips for getting a 3-year-old to follow instructions, whether it is appropriate to use chores as consequences, and how to determine what qualifies as bad behavior from a 3-year-old. Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction to Holding Boundaries as a Parent 01:17 The Difference Between Pleaser Parenting and Authority-Style Parenting Compared to Calm Leadership 04:24 How to Be Taken Seriously as a Parent 06:32 Lisa’s Demeanor When Disciplining 08:41 Why Parents Should Have Boundaries 09:14 Equating Discipline With Kindness 10:25 Personal Story: Home Clothes and School Clothes 14:04 What Age Lisa Would Start Implementing Boundaries 14:50 Listener Question 1: What Consequences to Choose For Kids? 16:19 Listener Question 2: 3-Year-Old Testing Boundaries? 17:47 Listener Question 3: Toddler Becoming Demanding? 20:16 Listener Question 4: 19-Month-Old Won’t Let Mom Wash Face or Brush Teeth? 22:37 Using Fun With Calm Leadership 25:47 Listener Question 5: Getting 3-Year-Old to Follow Instructions? 28:55 Listener Question 6: Using Chores as Consequences? 29:58 Listener Question 7: Determining What is Bad Behaviour From 3-Year-Old? 31:40 Getting Rid of Parenting Guilt Around Boundaries 33:03 Personal Story: Mommy Makes Us Be Nice Thank you for joining us! If you’re looking to learn more about the BratBusters Behaviour Board, parenting courses, and more, visit https://bratbusters.com today. Have a parenting question you’d like to submit for a chance to be featured in an upcoming podcast? You can submit yours here https://bratbusters.com/podcast-questions/ Let’s Connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bratbustersparenting/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bratbustersparenting?lang=en YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BratBustersParenting Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BratBustersParenting Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice. Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach, mom and grandmother. Lisa is not a licensed psychologist or counsellor. Her services do not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals. For a full disclaimer, please visit bratbusters.com/disclaimer