This episode is sponsored by Cash App, Audible, Square & Nutrafol. Cash App: Download Cash App Today: [https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/kssum24w #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Audible: Go to https://Audible.com/MessyLove to start listening today. Square: Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at https://square.com/go/UNPLANNED! #squarepod Nutrafol: Nutrafol is offering our listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to https://Nutrafol.com and enter the promo code UNPLANNEDPOD Mark Manson joins Matt & Abby for a thoughtful, honest conversation about modern self-help, personal responsibility, and what actually leads to a meaningful life. They talk marriage as a “long conversation,” the dangers of toxic positivity, dating apps, friendship, death, and how Mark’s thinking has evolved since writing The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Mark's IG: https://www.instagram.com/markmanson/ Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbbyHoward Chapters: 00:00 - Mark Manson 03:12 - Disappointment Panda 06:45 - Titling The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck 13:00 - sponsor: CashApp 14:37 - Religious influence 19:15 - Dangers of self help 21:59 - How my views have changed 23:50 - Personal responsibility 26:34 - sponsor: audible 27:44 - Children and purpose 34:41 - Importance of community 39:45 - sponsor: square 41:40 - Three factors of friendship 46:33 - Quality of Life 53:15 - sponsor: Nutrafol 56:25 - Death 1:00:16 - Marriage: the Long Conversation 1:03:19 - The trap of dating apps 1:07:53 - Keeping score in marriage 1:13:18 - Launching a new self help app #unplannedpodcast #mattandabby