You think you're being obvious. You're not. In this clip, body language expert Vanessa Van Edwards and Jay Shetty break down what actually happens in the seconds before someone decides whether to approach you and the study that counted every flirtation signal in a room full of singles. Vanessa explains why the most attractive people in the room get approached less than everyone else, why your voice gives away your confidence in the first fraction of a second, and the one-word opener she wants you to try on anyone, anywhere. Learn about the difference between being interesting and being available, the question she asks instead of "how are you", and the three-step exit for a conversation you want out of. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Chapters 0:00 — How to signal interest without giving it away 0:27 — Signal amplification bias 1:03 — The 29 signals it takes to get approached 2:05 — Why availability beats attractiveness 2:59 — The flirty glance, demonstrated 4:34 — The white t-shirt smell study 5:41 — The one word that changes everything 6:55 — What your first 200 milliseconds says about you 10:33 — Finding the lowest end of your voice 14:31 — Context cues and the me-too moment 17:42 — What every popular kid had in common 21:29 — Why compliments push people away 26:12 — Turning small talk into a guessing game 31:10 — The art of a graceful exit 33:24 — The triple nod 38:07 — The car challenge 41:21 — The fear sweat study 44:20 — Warmth vs. competence 50:02 — Charisma or narcissism 56:11 — The question that beats "how are you" Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️ Netflix - https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD Spotify - https://dub.sh/axUXylv Full Episode With Vanessa Van Edwards: https://youtu.be/d3fkpYlR7fU Episode Resources https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards https://x.com/vvanedwards https://www.youtube.com/@Vvanedwards https://www.tiktok.com/@vvanedwards https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards