Saying "let it go" makes you feel like you lost. Saying "let them" makes you feel like you rose above it. In this clip, Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty talk about the Let Them theory. It starts with a rude boss and a pile of dishes in the sink. But Mel says that's only half of it. She shares the talk Chris had with her about cardboard boxes and a messy counter. One sentence from him changed how she heard it. She explains why you can't change another person, and what you can do instead. And she gives a 30-day rule for after a breakup. Learn about the second part of the theory that people never tattoo on themselves. And learn why a simple apology can help someone you love want to change. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️ Netflix - https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD Spotify - https://dub.sh/axUXylv Full Episode With Mel Robbins: https://youtu.be/P91b4civBxA Episode Resources: https://www.melrobbins.com/ https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ https://www.youtube.com/c/melrobbins https://www.tiktok.com/@melrobbins https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002 https://www.amazon.com/Let-Them-Theory-Life-Changing-Millions/dp/B0DFMZMKFJ/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=Rp7as&content-id=amzn1.sym.bc3ba8d1-5076-4ab7-9ba8-a5c6211e002d&pf_rd_p=bc3ba8d1-5076-4ab7-9ba8-a5c6211e002d&pf_rd_r=132-8121315-7594942&pd_rd_wg=OVMET&pd_rd_r=8ae51e79-e6c5-4904-8848-02949c09243c&ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk