In this special episode, we're thrilled to welcome Meg Campbell as we tackle the question: Can there be a healthy Mormon/exMormon divorce? Meg reflects on her journey of feeling constrained by church expectations and how her relationship shifted with the pressure of a Mormon Temple marriage. She shares vital dos and don’ts for navigating divorce, insights on dating afterward, and ways to support others through their divorce experiences. Join Julia, Margi, and John Dehlin for this important discussion! Show Notes: https://www.mormonstories.org/healthy-mormon-divorce-meg-campbell/ 00:00:00 Intro 00:03:23 Intentions for Meg 00:06:40 Background 00:10:53 She wasn’t a “knower” 00:15:40 The role of women in the church 00:21:55 What was she taught to value in a man? 00:27:30 Did she pray and ask if he was right to marry? 00:31:55 Dating for two years 00:33:55 She had to have weekly meetings with her bishop 00:39:25 They were in a healthy place and the church made it unhealthy 00:43:30 Marital Contract 00:47:35 How much of this was her wanting to do this personally or was it all external? 00:51:40 When things started to fracture in the marriage 00:56:44 Her husband leaving the church felt like a huge betrayal 01:00:54 How eternal families work in the Mormonism 01:07:04 Manufactured scarcity, other religions believe families are forever anyway 01:08:50 This was the beginning of a faith crisis for her 01:16:40 Some of the issues she had with the church 01:23:24 Her husband did not bless their baby 01:26:35 The message the children were getting about their dad 01:32:20 How the church sets up women to be vulnerable 01:35:20 Four years later they got divorced 01:45:25 What did she feel about divorce before she got to that point? 01:51:22 Why do you rate relationships by longevity? 01:53:03 Meeting with an Uncoupling coach 01:55:41 Prioritize your kids well being 02:00:50 Often one person wants to stay in the marriage and the other doesn’t 02:05:55 Her children’s relationship with the church at this time 02:11:05 Her son being asked if they attend church 02:14:35 Recap of what she did to make her divorce healthy 02:20:45 Understanding the difference between boundaries vs gestures of goodwill 02:28:55 Different therapies that work 02:40:35 What has come from the divorce? 02:52:43 Alimony, child support, dos and don’ts of Divorce 03:04:25 Dating after divorce 03:17:04 Helping others through their divorces ___________________ At Mormon Stories we explore, celebrate, and challenge Mormon culture through in-depth stories told by members and former members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints as well as scholars, authors, LDS apologists, and other professionals. Our overall mission is to: 1. Facilitate informed consent amongst LDS Church members, investigators, and non-members regarding Mormon history, doctrine, and theology 2. Support Mormons (and members of other high-demand religions) who are experiencing a religious faith crisis 3. Promote healing, growth and community for those who choose to leave the LDS Church or other high demand religions 🤝Help us continue to deliver quality content by becoming a donor today One-time or recurring donations: https://donorbox.org/mormon-stories?default_interval=m Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/mormonstories Venmo: https://account.venmo.com/u/mormonstories Paypal: https://paypal.me/mormonstories Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCx6OgmoqJbOVRq-Lv1P7SzA/join Our Platforms: 🌐Mormon Stories Blog: https://www.mormonstories.org/episodes 🎙️Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/mormonstories ✳️Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4sDzk7dRjODTSEqzZKZJzk?si=148b0efc1ccc4404&nd=1 🍎Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mormon-stories-lds/id312094772 🖼️Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mormstories 📱TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mormonstoriespodcast 🎮Discord: https://discord.com/invite/kuX5p6yyjF Contact us: 📧 MormonStories@gmail.com 📬PO Box 171085, Salt Lake City, UT 84117