Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In today’s episode, you’re going to learn the root cause of why you feel stuck. Whether you feel trapped in self-doubt, overwhelmed by anxiety, or find yourself in a dynamic that keeps repeating, this conversation will show you how to break free. Joining Mel today is Lori Gottlieb: world-renowned therapist, writer of the “Ask the Therapist” column for The New York Times, author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” which has sold 3 million copies, and host of the podcast Since You Asked. Lori is here to help you change the most powerful force shaping your life: the story you’re telling yourself. What she shares today will change the way you see yourself, your relationships, and your past. In this episode, you’ll learn: -How to identify the story that’s keeping you stuck -What emotional trauma has to do with your inner dialogue -How anxiety is fueled by the way you talk to yourself -The simple tools to calm anxiety and stop spiraling -The biggest questions people bring to therapy and what they all have in common -How to reclaim the author role in your life and stop being defined by your past If you’ve ever felt like you missed your shot, like you’re too much or not enough, or that it’s too late to feel better, this conversation is for you. You are not the story you’ve been telling yourself. You are the author. And today, with Lori’s help, you’ll learn how to write something new – starting now. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-345/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Meet the Guest 04:38 Why You Blame Everyone for Your Problems 13:31 The Stories That Keep You Stuck 18:18 What Really Causes People to Overreact 25:15 How to Give (and Receive) Wise, Honest Advice 30:25 How to Finally Get to Know Yourself 36:02 Why You Never Feel Good Enough (and What To Do About It) 42:34 Why Change Feels So Hard 53:43 Tips to Heal From Guilt and Shame 1:00:50 What Anxiety Really Is 1:02:18 How to Identify Your Emotional Needs in a Relationship 1:05:14 How to Fight Without Damaging Your Relationship 1:12:55 How to Support Someone in a Toxic Relationship — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah