Thank you to today’s sponsors: Beam Minerals: Head to https://bit.ly/WOIBeam and enter code “NYBBS” at checkout for 20% off your first order In today’s episode of Women of Impact, Mel Robbins and I will frikin’ CHANGE YOUR LIFE and help you get to your goals in JUST 50 minutes! So if you feel like you’re constantly losing it, always overwhelmed, easily distracted, or the worst, ASHAMED at how stupid you seem to others, fear not because our girl Mel is here to help!! Mel Robbins is a best selling author, podcast host, and one of the most sought-after speakers in the world – but while she has had SOOO much success in her life, she can’t seem to text anyone back, remember someone’s birthday, or put away the milk when she makes coffee. The thing is guys, even Mel frikin’ Robbins isn’t immune to the anxiety and self-criticism that comes from undiagnosed ADHD. But now, in her 50s, she is FINALLY ditching the self-criticism and owning her diagnosis! Women have historically been disproportionately undiagnosed for SOO many reasons, (and yep…. I am part of that stat too!) which is why I wanted Mel to come on the show to talk about the sneaky symptoms of ADHD that you might be suffering with right now, the power that can come from a proper diagnosis, and what you can do to OWN it and make it your superpower! Because once you understand that YOU’RE NOT CRAZY and your brain just works differently, THAT’S when you can actually take control and do something about it!! Chapter Markers: 🧠 [00:00] Undiagnosed ADHD in women 🚩 [7:26] Signs of attention issues ❌ [19:57] Stop beating yourself up 👩‍❤️‍👨 [24:12] ADHD & and its effect on relationships 🦸‍♀️ [41:35] Make it your superpower 🔥 MEL’S FIRE QUOTES: "There were a profound number of young women, myself included, who started developing anxiety in their teens and were treated for anxiety…and so there's this lost generation of us for decades, Lisa, who were diagnosed with anxiety or depression in high school and college years, treated for anxiety, when really the core issue underneath it all, was undiagnosed, either some type of learning disability or difference, or it was attention issues." "It's not about focus. It's about your brain's ability to direct that focus in appropriate ways." “And so when your estrogen is out of whack, your estrogen is also in your brain, and it is a really important hormone when it comes to attention and memory." "I could never properly communicate that I didn't mean to not do it. I just forgot on my way to the garbage can because something else entered my brain to finish the task." "Executive functioning is when you have basically an administrative assistant in your brain, and it's the administrative assistant that is dictating and telling you what to do in what order." "If you have an inability to focus and hold your focus, particularly when the task that you need to do homework, finishing a report, finishing a book that you're not interested in, solving some problem, listening to a conversation that isn't particularly interesting, the person that is in the head, the executive assistant is like, meh." "There was an enormous impact on women around the world, given this lost generation of women who developed and were diagnosed and treated with anxiety forever and never understood until later in life, or, heck, may not even know still right now that the core issue that they beat themselves up with is a focus or a learning style difference." Follow Mel Robbins: Website: https://www.melrobbins.com/ Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement