Ready to begin or deepen your meditation practice? Join Dan Harris and world-class meditation teachers on the 10% with Dan Harris app here: https://app.danharris.com/membership Is the "No Regrets" philosophy actually doing you more harm than good?. In this episode, Dan Harris sits down with world-renowned author Daniel Pink to dismantle the myth of toxic positivity and reveal why regret is one of our most powerful tools for personal growth. Daniel Pink reveals the findings from his World Regret Survey, which collected over 26,000 regrets from 130 countries. You’ll learn about the 4 Core Regrets—Foundation, Boldness, Moral, and Connection—and discover why we overwhelmingly regret the things we didn't do as we get older. Key Takeaways & Tools: • The 15-Minute Journaling Hack: Research shows writing about your regrets for 15 minutes over three days can significantly "defang" negative emotions. • The Failure Resume: A practical way to memorialize your setbacks and extract the specific lessons they taught you. • Solomon’s Paradox: Learn to overcome poor decision-making by talking to yourself like you would a best friend • Pre-Mortems: A "time travel" strategy for your brain to anticipate and avoid future regrets before they happen. Whether you’re wrestling with past mistakes or trying to make better decisions for your future, this conversation offers a practical toolkit for turning your "if onlys" into "at leasts". Subscribe to watch more 10% Happier videos: https://www.youtube.com/tenpercenthappier Follow Dan Harris on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/danharris/ https://www.tiktok.com/@danbharris https://www.facebook.com/DanHarrisABC https://twitter.com/danbharris https://www.linkedin.com/in/dan-harris-91ba5716b/ Timestamps: The Science of Regret 00:00 The "No Regrets" Myth 04:47 Regret vs. Disappointment 10:41 Why Regret is a Superpower 13:51 The 4 Core Regrets 16:01 Stability & Risk (Foundation/Boldness) 16:59 Ethics & Love (Moral/Connection) 18:59 The Pain of Inaction 20:55 How to "Defang" Your Mistakes 24:20 Frameworks: Failure Resumes 31:10 The Pre-Mortem Strategy 33:56 Self-Compassion & Distancing 38:58