What if the worst thing that's ever happened to you was actually the best? I know that sounds wild, maybe even offensive depending on where you are in your journey. But sometimes the hardest things that happen in our lives, those things that feel like our personal living nightmare, end up being the best things that have ever happened for us. I met Axel Schura in Bali during a deep shadow work retreat where we shared the hardest things that have ever happened in our lives around a fire. It was such a humanizing experience hearing the men share their heartbreaks and pain. His journey was through cancer, a one-week life sentence that became a complete transformation. In this episode, we explore: 💔 How to shift from "Why me?" to "How is this happening for me?" 🧠 Why the word "should" is the most toxic word (and what it does to your body) 💪 The power of act as if psychology when everything feels uncertain ❤️ Why accepting challenges doesn't mean spiritually bypassing the pain ✨ How our greatest problem is believing we shouldn't have any problems We talk about the journey from asking terrible questions to asking empowering ones. How crying for months can actually be processing grief you never knew you were holding. Why the word "should" is poisoning you. And how our souls chose these experiences to crack us open. Four years later, Axel lives in Bali, travels the world, and just wrote a book. This episode is permission to trust that maybe this terrible thing is actually one of the best things that ever happened for you. Connect with Axel Schura on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/axelschura/?hl=en Learn more about Axel's new book here: https://axelschura.com/maybe/ Make this the year you finally start your podcast movement be personally mentored in a small group setting with me https://sahararosecourses.com/podcast-mentorship If you are looking for a diverse + nourishing community of like-minded souls I’d love to invite you to join Rose Gold Goddesses at https://www.rosegoldgoddesses.com Receive 10% off your first month of therapy with our sponsor Betterhelp at https://www.betterhelp.com/sahara Discover Your Dharma - Order your copy now - https://iamsahararose.com/dharma Stream the Intro + Outro Music: Trust Flow by Sahara Rose ft. WillyNoir here https://open.spotify.com/track/5YJ6t9KWmkD8PK9oOyD4qB and watch the music video here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKrYJye7B8k To receive a free womb mediation, email a screenshot of your review of the Highest Self Podcast to sahara@iamsahararose.com Follow me your spiritual bestie to active your fullest expression + laugh along the way: https://www.Instagram.com/iamsahararose https://www.tiktok.com/@iamsahararose https://www.Facebook.com/iamsahararose Order My Books: https://www.iamsahararose.com/books By accessing this Podcast, I acknowledge that the entire contents are the property of Sahara Rose, or used by Sahara Rose with permission, and are protected under U.S. and international copyright and trademark laws. Except as otherwise provided herein, users of this Podcast may save and use information contained in the Podcast only for personal or other non-commercial, educational purposes. No other use, including, without limitation, reproduction, retransmission or editing, of this Podcast may be made without the prior written permission of the Sahara Rose, which may be requested by contacting pr@iamsahararose.com. This podcast is for educational purposes only. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. 0:00 Intro: What If the Worst Thing Was Actually the Best? 5:15 From Fit to Fighting for Life in Weeks 12:30 The One Week Life Sentence 18:45 Why His Partner Never Told Him 25:20 Asking "Why Me?" vs "How Is This For Me?" 32:40 Creating a Vision Board in the Hospital 38:55 Learning to Ask for Help 45:10 The Power of Act As If Psychology 52:25 Why "Should" Is the Most Toxic Word 58:40 Trauma Makes You a Hotter Person 1:04:15 Surrounding Yourself with Empowering Stories