On Today's Episode: Does hooking up on the first night make a woman confident or does it make her promiscuous? We wish there was a straightforward way to answer this, but the reality is there are too many variables to say. Men may not think about sex on the first date as the worst thing or the only thing they want from you. Stephan Speaks, the relationship guru with 79 million views and several bestsellers, has been bridging the communication gap between men and women looking for healthier relationships, makes it clear that whether you sleep with him on the first date on not, there are some key things you should be doing and paying attention to that will help you decide with confidence. Given the pressure we all face in dating, seeing how men think about sex on that first date can make dating less stressful and more enjoyable. Stephan's biggest recommendations are keeping the first date simple and not being afraid to ask questions. You will never scare off the right person by asking questions, and giving someone the opportunity and permission to reveal their intentions is key to beginning a great relationship. You don’t have to be upset or mad if his intentions aren’t aligned. You can use the opportunity to move on quicker and spare yourself the heartache. QUOTES: “Men become more cautious when it comes to making sexual attempts the more they like a woman.” [7:33] “If you are concerned about his intentions, keep him talking.” [11:57] “Focus on having fun first, and through having fun, be confident enough in yourself to be aware.” [14:02] “Most men come into that date putting you in a box.” [15:34] “Women, growing up, were fed more of the fantasy idea of ‘the one.’” [19:43] “When we’re dealing with the person who is not truly best for us, things are going to go left for us, [...] because we do not connect correctly.” [23:11] “The toxic man is toxic in many ways.” [25:16] “A lot of guys are good guys in the wrong relationship, and there’s a lot of good women in the wrong relationship…” [26:35] “When a woman feels the need to have to propose it’s because deep inside you sense that if you don’t he will never.” [27:30] “Every woman who dates from now on should give that man permission to be blatantly, brutally honest because it will save her the headache of confusion and his fear of how she’ll receive it.” [29:46] “It’s not about what the person does, it’s about how they handle your feelings about it, how they handle you addressing it. That’s when you’re going to see what we’re really working with.” [45:22] “The process of a man getting sex and the process of a woman getting sex are viewed completely different, and they are completely different. [58:55] “Once you take time to master the person’s body, you will be on a level that no one else can match.” [1:17:24] “Some people want to make empowerment about not wanting or needing a man. I view empowerment as living in your truth.” [1:25:59] Follow Stephan Speaks: Website: https://www.stephanspeaks.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7ow Twitter: https://twitter.com/StephanSpeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephanSpeaksRelationships/