At the top of her career, Melinda French Gates started doubting herself in meetings she'd run a hundred times before. The causes turned out to be chronic insomnia, undiagnosed perimenopause, and a habit she'd picked up years earlier of overriding her own signals. Dr. Becky sits down with Melinda, founder of Pivotal Ventures, to talk about how women learn to stop trusting themselves, and what it takes to rebuild that trust. They get into new Gallup research from Pivotal Ventures, where half of respondents who'd been pregnant said they struggled with their mental health during or after pregnancy. They also cover the "10,000 paper cuts" that teach girls and women to question their gut, and a simple phrase that helps kids trust what they notice. Plus: what Melinda's granddaughters are teaching her about "I'm not ready yet," and why perfect is creepy. Thanks to Carter's, Good Inside's new Confidence Program is free for every family for the next six months. Click here to learn more. https://www.goodinside.com/program/raising-confident-capable-kids/?utm_source=podcast_gi&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=confidence_program&utm_content=shownotes_20260929 Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible: Frida: Shop Frida at Amazon, Target, and Walmart today Perelel: Use code GOODINSIDE for 20% off your first order at perelelhealth.com/GOODINSIDE Yoto: Get 15% off your order with the code DRBECKY15 at YotoPlay.com. New customers only, ends October 31, offer valid on select products only. Terms apply. Care.com: For a limited time, you can use the code BECKY35 to save 35% on a Care.com Premium Membership.**Offer applies to initial term of http://Care.com membership subscriptions. Not applicable to add-on features or non-renewing access fees or services. Expires 10/31/26. Care.com does not employ or place any caregiver. Background checks are an important start, but they have limits. Visit www.care.com/safety. #goodinside #drbecky #melindafrenchgates #womenshealth #perimenopause #maternalmentalhealth #parenting