Esther Perel is a renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and the palpable voice behind “Where Should We Begin?” We explore the alterations of modern love, the paradigm shift needed in relationships, and her non-judgmental approach to desire and intimacy. READ MORE👉🏾 https://bit.ly/richroll872 ✌🏼🌱 - Rich This Episode Is Brought To You By... ROKA Use code RICHROLL for 20% OFF 👉 https://bit.ly/ROKA2024 SQUARESPACE Get 10% OFF with code RichRoll 👉🏾 https://bit.ly/squarespace2024 Check out all of the amazing discounts from our Sponsors 👉🏾 https://bit.ly/rrpsponsors LISTEN / SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/rrpitunes Spotify: http://bit.ly/rrpspotify Google: http://bit.ly/rrpgooglepods Meal Planner: http://meals.richroll.com Voicing Change Book: http://richroll.com/vc Clips Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/RichRollPodcastClips Newsletter: http://bit.ly/rollcallemail CHAPTERS 00:00:00 Intro 00:02:26 Creating Intimacy in Large Audiences 00:07:06 Defining Her Approach to Therapy 00:10:47 Modern Love vs. Traditional Love 00:14:57 Redefining Modern Intimacy 00:16:27 Expectations in Modern Relationships 00:19:51 Legacy Relationships and Their Impact 00:21:24 Self-Awareness in Relationships 00:23:05 Stories We Tell Ourselves 00:25:34 Breaking the Cycle of Conflict 00:26:03 Cognitive Distortions in Relationships 00:28:53 AD Break 00:30:48 The Power of Accountability 00:33:56 Defensiveness in Relationships 00:34:53 The Relational Nature of Identity 00:37:20 Isolation in Modern Relationships 00:39:40 Conflict and Contempt 00:40:33 Loneliness in Relationships 00:41:48 Ambiguous Loss 00:43:15 Modern Communication Challenges 00:45:12 Artificial Intimacy 00:46:22 Friendship Dynamics 00:48:48 Cultural Perspectives on Friendship 00:53:09 Childhood Play and Social Skills 00:55:14 Impact of Fear on Child Development 00:56:28 Navigating Long-Term Relationships 00:57:42 Understanding 'Stuff' in Relationships 00:58:56 Navigating Family Dynamics 00:59:36 Rituals in Relationships 01:00:48 Breaking Routine with Creativity 01:03:12 The Role of Risk in Relationships 01:04:36 Trust and Risk-taking 01:05:44 Ad Break 01:07:01 Intimacy and Self-Awareness 01:08:21 The Staleness of Old Stories 01:10:05 Writing Letters for Connection 01:11:37 Balancing Stability and Change 01:13:45 Effort in Relationships 01:14:50 Illusion of Static Relationships 01:15:23 Control and Safety in Relationships 01:15:53 The Definition of 'Erotic' 01:16:09 Understanding Eroticism 01:17:37 Challenges in Sexual Communication 01:18:22 Creating Tools for Difficult Conversations 01:19:01 Introducing the Parallel Desire Bundle 01:20:08 The Role of Play in Sexual Conversations 01:21:12 Sex as an Experience, Not Just an Act 01:21:38 Fantasies as a Reflection of Needs 01:23:13 Demystifying Sexuality 01:25:31 Encouraging Open Dialogue 01:29:24 The Importance of Relational Intelligence 01:30:52 The Role of Sexuality in Life 01:32:48 Addressing Ignorance in Sexual Education 01:32:58 Challenging Unrealistic Expectations 01:34:18 The Evolution of Sexuality 01:35:38 The Myth of Spontaneity 01:35:57 The Importance of Intentionality 01:36:52 Scheduling Sex 01:40:48 Rituals and Mindfulness 01:41:25 Anticipation and Desire 01:42:47 Dating in the Modern Age 01:43:50 The Impact of Dating Apps 01:45:03 First Dates as Job Interviews 01:48:07 Integrating Dating into Life 01:48:23 Speed Dating as a Solution 01:49:57 Creating Context for Connection 01:50:47 Flexibility in Relationships 01:51:01 Understanding Relationship Dynamics 01:51:53 The Meaning of Static Relationships 01:53:01 Relationships and Their Endings CONNECT WITH RICH ✩ Website - http://richroll.com​ ✩ Rich Roll Podcast - https://richroll.com/all-episodes/ ✩ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/richroll/ ✩ Twitter - https://twitter.com/richroll ✩ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/richrollfans ✩ Strava - https://www.strava.com/athletes/14443?oq=rich ✩ Memoir: Finding Ultra - https://www.richroll.com/shop/books/finding-ultra/ ✩ Meals - http://meals.richroll.com​ ✩ Cook - The Plantpower Way - https://www.richroll.com/shop/books/the-plantpower-way-signed/ ✩ Italian! - The Plantpower Way: Italia - https://www.richroll.com/shop/books/the-plantpower-way-italia-signed/ ✩ Support - https://www.patreon.com/richroll FILMED AND EDITED BY DAN DRAKE https://www.dandrake333.com/ * * * * * NEW TO RICH? Hi I'm Rich Roll. I'm a vegan ultra-endurance athlete, author, podcaster, public speaker & wellness evangelist. But mainly I'm a dad of four. If you want to know more, visit my website or check out these two the NY Times articles: http://bit.ly/otillonyt http://bit.ly/vegansglam I LOVE MAIL! SEND IT HERE: 2630 Conejo Spectrum St. Thousand Oaks, CA 91320 #richroll #richrollpodcast