My new book, “Own Or Be Owned”, is all about building a business so good it doesn't need you. More profit, less pain. It's out NOW. Grab it here! https://contrarianthinking.biz/oobo_bigdeal - cs Most people think confidence is about believing in yourself. Gabrielle Bernstein knows better — it's about befriending the parts of yourself that hold you back. After two decades as a spiritual teacher and writing 11 bestselling books, the author of _The Universe Has Your Back_ and _Self-Help_ has cracked the code on why we sabotage our success, stay stuck in negative loops, and block the very abundance we're trying to attract. In this raw, deeply personal conversation, Gabrielle breaks down the exact Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework that changed her life, why pushing harder actually blocks manifestation, how suppressed trauma creates parts that sabotage you decades later, and why the 3 AM spiral can be stopped by visualizing your thoughts in a bubble and sending them away. And it’s not just vibes — it's applied psychology. If you've ever felt like you're blocking your own success, spiraling in negative self-talk, or pushing so hard you can't receive what's trying to come to you, this episode will rewire how you think about confidence, manifestation, and what it actually takes to attract abundance. Keep up with Gabrielle Bernstein: Website: https://gabbybernstein.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyb YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@gabriellebernstein Podcast: https://gabbybernstein.com/podcast/ ___________ 00:00:00 Introduction 00:04:05 The Spiral Breaker: Four Steps to Reset Your Mind 00:01:25 Change Your Goals If You Don't Believe In Them 00:09:52 You Can Do Less and Attract More: The Allowing Principle 00:11:30 How to Manifest Correctly: Energy Over Effort 00:18:07 Main Street Millionaire Live: Your Path to Business Ownership 00:18:42 The Choose Again Method: Notice, Forgive, Redirect 00:22:20 Internal Family Systems: Befriending Your Parts 00:30:59 The Four-Step Check-In That Changes Everything 00:37:37 Real Boundaries Come From Self-Compassion, Not Rage 00:45:37 How to Choose a Good Therapist and Work With Your Partner 00:28:13 The Hormone Monster and Perry Menopause Truth Bomb 00:57:47 From Pushing to Receiving: The Abundance Shift 00:49:43 AI, Mediumship, and the Future of Spiritual Guidance 00:42:52 The Universe Has Your Back: Writing Through Trauma 01:03:41 It's Safe to Slow Down: The Promise of Less Doing, More Attracting ___________ *MORE FROM BIGDEAL* 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PodcastBigDeal 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bigdeal.podcast 📽️ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@big.deal.pod *MORE FROM CODIE SANCHEZ* 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CodieSanchezCT 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/codiesanchez 📽️ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@realcodiesanchez *OTHER THINGS WE DO* 🌐 Our community: https://contrarianthinking.typeform.com/to/WBztXXID 📰 Free newsletter: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3XWLlZp 📚 Biz buying course: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3NhjGgN 🏠 Resibrands: https://resibrands.com/ 💰 CT Capital: https://contrarianthinking.biz/4eRyGOk 🏦 Main St Hold Co: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3YfGa8u