A person cannot be both a jerk and late, as lateness necessitates being humble and apologetic.

“You can either be a dick or you can be late. You can't be both.”

Genuine politeness and respect for others is a sign of someone being raised well and is a major positive character trait.

“it kind of encapsulates who who he was or at least who I perceive him to be again I didn't meet him I didn't get much time with him but it seems like he is just genuinely polite and actually interested when he meets somebody and like I I want to make sure I make this person who's a stranger up until”