Julia believes that one should integrate their full identity into their romantic relationships to avoid the negative consequences of hiding parts of oneself.

“If you have to tuck away a part of yourself and you can't fully be it, then it has takes a cost because it can seep into other parts of you. If you feel like you have to hide something and that what you want isn't allowed, a part of you isn't accepted, then you might try to downplay other parts of y”