Successful romantic relationships require mutually respectful communication and development rather than assuming a partner must perfectly align with one's own predispositions.

“I think you can have two people that are that went very very different things whether it's in sex or in business or their beliefs about religion and spirituality be bound together as long as they have respectful communication”

Sex should be viewed as a language and a flexible experience rather than a performative act governed by scripts learned from pornography.

“tantric sex was the first thing that I came across that made me realize and really articulated that sex is actually not a specific destination”

Women's pleasure is not solely defined by the ability to squirt, and personal sexual satisfaction is best achieved through authentic connection and communication.

“I think the whole squirting thing is just putting more pressure on women like who cares are you coming if you're coming who cares if you're schooling”

The reliance on external fantasies during sexual encounters suggests a disconnect that can be mitigated by injecting love into the experience.

“some people would listen to that particularly people with uh what what others might describe as a more puritanical sexual ethic and say that that just demonstrates that sex has gone utterly wrong in our in our in our sort of modern secular age”

Eroticism in relationships is defined by qualities like curiosity, imagination, and playfulness rather than just sexual acts.

“Eroticism in a relationship is the quality of imagination, curiosity, playfulness, mystery, risk-taking, novelty that people bring to their relationship. Those are the things that I think bring life to a relationship.”

She believes sexuality is a source of life force that can be understood through self-reflection rather than through extreme behaviors or religious shame.

“I think that you can learn a lot about yourself through sex you learn a lot about yourself when you're thrown into the fire because that's obviously still a very taboo industry to be in so it forces you to look at yourself”

Sexuality is a vital quadrant of consciousness that should be used to transmute sexual energy into healing and potent creative force.

“Otherwise, we're missing a very important quadrant of what consciousness is really about. In fact, the most like this is what all these spiritual lineages were originally about.”

Sexual energy is a vital, creative force that should be transmuted into purpose, clarity, and health rather than wasted through mindless habits.

“Sexual energy is that vital energy we possess; it's the only one that transcends death because it gives life and is creative energy. Well-channeled sexual energy helps us, on the one hand, to have good health.”

The sexual revolution is pathological because it enables male exploiters and represents a short-term game that is not sustainable for either sex.

“our developing hypothesis here in the podcast and obviously you've thought this through to a great degree is that part of the reason that the sexual revolution claiming absolute sexual freedom is pathological is because well, it enables the male exploiters but and that's not good at all, but it also”

The sexual revolution was not entirely bad but is falsely presented by progressives, and the belief that sex without principles is empowering has led to widespread disillusionment.

“My argument is not that it was entirely bad. I don't think you can paint any huge historical event as entirely bad or entirely good but I think that it has been falsely presented mostly by progressives through rose-tinted spectacles and this is my attempt to counter that.”

She asserts that the sexual revolution has commodified female sexuality and left women vulnerable to predatory sexual strategies used by certain men.

“what it gave birth to was the corn industry and it gave birth to a ballooning sex industry and now you know 50 years on from that we have PornHub which is one of the biggest website one of the most one one of the most high high grossing websites in the world and which is already notorious for sex tr”

She believes that BDSM serves as a tool for healing trauma because it allows for the reclamation of agency.

“BDSM has the power to heal trauma because it is a reclamation of what was stolen.”

Engaging in extreme or unconventional sexual behaviors and being honest about them acts as a relief from shame.

“The more you own something, >> the more you talk about it, the less shame you have with it cuz shame is the killer.”

Rachel believes that BDSM serves as a tool for feeling powerful, sexy, and finding sexual enjoyment through power dynamics.

“most of sex is not even it's about power and so feeling powerful sexy and you might not think that you know playing with scat or you know urination or anything like that is sexy but in the moment when you feel that power you do feel sexy”