Gravano believes it is the duty of Mafia members to defend the wives of their associates.

“this [ __ ] bum goes in and wrecks her whole joint and robs her and beats her up it's acceptable wait wait Frankie no no wait nothing Paul Wait nothing and he cursed samimy cursed at him I wish samimy would have killed him samimy abused them that's what a man is supposed to do he did what he's suppo”

Joey Merlino is not a respected mob boss and is viewed with contempt by those in the life because of his public behavior.

“No Captain no respected Captain is going to sit with a guy doing shows it's not happening go [ __ ] what anyone tells me I sat with the best it's not happening my VIN V tell him get this assle out he's like I don't recognize you that's how we talk you know what I mean”