Dr. Aria believes that the most effective way to handle emotional pain is to cultivate stillness, accept emotions without trying to suppress them, and view experiences from an objective perspective.

“I've developed this ability to begin to view my life as though it's happening to someone else, as though the experiences, the thoughts, the emotions are are something that I can I can almost take it back on and have perspective.”

Emotions are normal and unavoidable, and providing a coherent story is essential for children and adults to process their emotional experiences.

“emotions are normal emotions are unstoppable”

Teenagers often need time alone to decompress after a long day rather than immediately engaging in conversation.

“I just went through and this is for every kid uh they or we just went through eight or nine hours of social interactions and tests and papers and classes and so when you get home the last thing you want to do is have a 20-minute conversation breaking down every little thing that happened”

Genuine emotional processing involves moving forward by connecting with one's body, identifying core feelings, making meaning, and shifting into action-oriented choices.

“So real processing involves one emotional awareness. I feel angry not why did they do that? The second thing a body connection. Where do you feel it physically? That's why I'm always saying connect back to your body.”