One should stop seeking validation for life changes from people who are unqualified or do not share the same path.

“stop asking people who are miserable or unqualified to validate your happiness your life your choices”

Self-love requires one to take responsibility for their own happiness and pay attention to their internal state rather than seeking external distractions.

“I was never addicted to one thing. I was addicted to filling a void within myself with things other than my own love.”

Celebrating small personal victories is essential for building the trust required to eventually pursue and achieve larger goals.

“It's that if you build trust with yourself doing these little things, you'll trust yourself with bigger things. And and anyone that you see that's doing big, bold, incredible things today is because they trusted themselves with the tiny, small, incremental changes.”

Self-love is the act of taking responsibility for the well-being of one's own life and setting standards for who is allowed to be part of it.

“we have to love ourselves enough that we would not put anyone in our presence no one would be the continued recipient of our investment our energy our Attention our love our intimacy if what we fundamentally want in life is something they cannot give us that's the essence of self-love”

Jada argues that true self-worth comes from internal work and self-acceptance rather than external validation or accomplishments.

“it's not just about what's happening on the outside Jada but if your inner world is not your foundation it's all sand castles”

He finds that embracing his inner child and practicing gratitude significantly contributes to his self-love and well-being.

“I wrote a letter to myself as an adult, but as the 8-year-old self. And I couldn't get through the I mean, I'm bawling crying. It's just such a great reminder to be a kid at heart.”

True self-love requires having a healthy relationship with oneself, which serves as the foundation for connecting with others.

“I think the big realization that I have is chasing the delicious will will never bring you around the nutritious. You know and that's really what this is. So when you when you say the you know the validation is addicting. It is. It's it's salty french fries. Yeah. And you can't just have one. But yo”

She views self-love and self-acceptance as ongoing challenges that she continues to actively work on rather than having fully mastered.

“That's very much still a work in progress for me and something my therapist and I talk about is how progress is kind of in you're going up, but it's circular motions. And in a circle you still go down and then you go up and you go down. And so I'm going through that very much with self-love”