It is better to move forward while carrying one's grief than to attempt to move on by leaving a lost person behind.

“The difference between moving on versus moving forward. You know, the message we get in this culture is you know, eventually you should move on. Like get over it. That's that's the message we're getting one way or another. And instead we can move forward, which means you do go on with your life, but”

The most effective way to deal with loss is to acknowledge that we are all experiencing a similar state of love and loss together.

“and we read it 200 years later because our lives are completely different from his and yet they're exactly the same. We would grieve, too, in in the exact same situation. And 200 years later, we'll still read it. And that's one of the great sources of uplift that we have.”