Happiness is not defined by highs such as fame or money, but by the ability to manage one's internal state through challenging life experiences.

“Happiness is actually kind of the inversion of that in a lot of ways. Happiness is often times actually unpleasant, you know, happiness it it's it's not the check that comes, you know, from the successful product launch. It's the work that goes into that product launch.”

The self-help industry often promotes ineffective positive thinking that ignores the necessity of accepting negative emotions like anxiety and uncertainty.

“they were not fill your mind with upbeat thoughts and set incredibly ambitious goals and try to push yourself relentlessly towards achieving them it was actually much more to do with being open to negative stuff and being willing to feel anxiety and security uncertainty”