Military personnel should ideally delay marriage until they have gained significant experience in the service and tested their partner through deployments.

“I tell them don't get married until you've done at least four years optimally. You've done eight years. Four of those completely single. Just isolating, polishing your craft. Now you find her. You test her out.”

The extreme demands of the military schedule and the difficulty of communicating often result in high marital strain for active-duty personnel.

“I mean I I think the schedule's super challenging. Um normally you're gone at least 300 days a year over probably. Um we're terrible at communicating. Great at bottling everything up. In town long enough to get in a fight, then go out of town, forget about it.”