The speaker believes that in a situation where one partner refuses to maintain household order, it is fair to suggest they hire outside help using their own money to resolve the conflict.

“I also told him he could just pay a cleaning service out of his discretionary funds if he wanted to let his family run rampant and not clean up after them”

The speaker believes that all adults in a household have an obligation to pick up after themselves and that children should be trained to do the same regardless of guests.

“the rules should clearly be that all adults pick up after themselves as a matter of course they're human not monkeys at a zoo all children are in training to learn how to pick up after themselves and of course the training doesn't stop just because the grandparents or cousins come to visit”