Love in relationships is fundamentally anchored in the experience of safety and feeling understood by another person.

“When I think about love, I'm like yes, safety and understanding. If someone feels safe around someone, that's a sense of love. And I mean emotionally safe, physically safe, mentally safe. And then if I feel understood by someone where I don't have to explain”

Close, warm connections with other human beings significantly promote health and longevity while toxic relationships damage physical health by keeping the body in a prolonged fight or flight state.

“what we do find, um and many other studies find, is that getting regular exercise, eating well, getting decent sleep, getting regular medical care if you can, all of those things, not smoking, not using alcohol or drugs, um not abusing at least, um that all of those turn out to have huge effects on ”