Open and honest communication with a partner about attraction to others can actually strengthen trust and a relationship.

“honest communication creates lasting relationships and what I mean by that is you know what if you want to talk about lust and you want to talk about other people that you are attracted to talk about them with your partner yeah that means niala often like we'll check out people together I love it”

Desire is fundamentally driven by a fictional object that is fantasized about because it is unattainable, and which fails to satisfy once it is obtained.

“this is a fictional object that we start to fantasize a bite because we can't get up right”