Couples should negotiate their finances jointly and should not engage in deception regarding their shared accounts.

“You don't want to be lying to him about finances. You don't want to be giving edicts to her. The two of you need to sit down. It's not your money. It's the couple's money.”

Edwin argues that his wife is obsessed with money and cannot account for the funds he provided to her.

“she has no concept for the value of a dollar she is obsessed with money I gave her 500,000 to buy the house there was so much money gone she couldn't until this day explain it to me where it went”

Ramit asserts that a couple's inability to discuss money without frequent arguing is a clear sign that they lack a shared financial philosophy and infrastructure.

“In fact, I think it's even concerning to be talking about money every single day. To me, it's a clue that they don't have a shared philosophy and a shared infrastructure. When you don't have that, you have to literally confront every money decision as if it's brand new. That's frustrating.”

Kara believes that the daily fighting about money stems from a lack of shared financial philosophy and infrastructure, forcing them to confront every spending decision individually.

“In fact, I think it's even concerning to be talking about money every single day. To me, it's a clue that they don't have a shared philosophy and a shared infrastructure. When you don't have that, you have to literally confront every money decision as if it's brand new. That's frustrating.”

Drake believes that their frequent money arguments are caused by Cara's persistent, stressful questioning about finances and that he needs more money to feel secure.

“I feel like my dear wife doesn't understand what it's like to be a man and have the very specific drive that not all men but most men have and the reason behind that drive. And instead it's looked at as an excuse and bull. And so there's no conversation to be had because when I try to express myself”

She admits that draining the couple's account and lying about the purchases was wrong.

“I do feel bad that I drained the account and it wasn't the right thing to do.”

Jodi asserts that Edwin intentionally hid and spent money to prevent her from accessing it.

“I absolutely think he got rid of the money so I wouldn't have any access to it”

He prioritizes avoiding debt over having an extravagant wedding day.

“But, my my whole view is is I was not in debt before this started, and I'm happy as hell why go in debt for that day? We have the rest of our life to, you know.”